1st Apr, 2009

Support is Only Support if it’s Supportive


As I arrived to work this morning I noticed a young boy and a woman, probably his mother, hurrying out of the hospital where I am employed.  They were moving rapidly and the woman was holding the boy’s hand.  That she was holding his hand didn’t strike me as surprising, but I did take a double take, when I realized, that the boy had his arm in a blue sling.  The woman was clasping the hand of the arm in the sling, with the result that the arm was far from the position where the sling would have placed it and the sling was hanging loosely and useless from the boy’s elbow.


 The boy did not appear to be in pain.   His facial expression seemed to be one of concentration and his little legs were pumping rapidly to keep pace with the fast moving long legs.


  I surmise the woman had brought the boy to the hospital for medical attention to his arm and that if asked, she would declare he was getting plenty of support.   Indeed all the signs of support were evident: the woman, probably the mother, had demonstrated her concern for the well being of the child by bringing him to a medical facility, he was wearing a sling on his arm, and she was ensuring his safety by holding his hand.


This encounter reminded me of a pregnant woman about to give birth.  Well-meaning and concerned relatives want to take her to the hospital for expert treatment.  While in the hospital she’ll be exposed to increased amounts of support” by eager medical personnel who want to prepare for the absolute worst case scenario.  During this process the woman responds to the growing tension surrounding the birthing by becoming stressed and confused.  Her increasingly tight muscles fight against the normal birthing reflexes and she tries very hard to keep up with the “experts.”  


A situation like this can be avoided by education and practice.  Any HypnoBirthing ® student is prepared to take control of her birth.  She understands her options and she knows what to expect.  It’s possible that she chooses to birth at home or in a birthing center.  She might need a Cesarean section or some other form of intervention, but she and her birthing companion will make sure, that she receives true support because she knows she has choices.  She also knows that she is in control and that the support she receives will be real support because it’s based on her needs and wishes and the circumstances surrounding the birth.


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